Assertiveness and You… Part I
Did you know that assertive workers…
- Convey capability and competence.
- Experience less stress (and less stress effects!).
- Have all the benefits of established self-esteem.
- Remain in control during times of conflict… and also have control over their anger.
- Tend to elicit a constructive response in others.
Sounds good eh? I don’t know about you, but I want to get me some of that!
Okay, tell me more
Assertion is grounded in the fact that everyone has the right to be treated with respect in all situations. Everyone has the right to be listened to and to be taken seriously, to say yes or no with conviction, to express their opinion, and to ask for what they need.
Assertive behavior can be many things. It can be standing up for your rights, feeling comfortable about being honest, expressing yourself with honestly (say what you mean and mean what you say), and observing and respecting the rights of others. In working relationships, assertive behaviour promotes equality and a healthy balance.
Locus (or Locust) of Control?
Do you have a healthy Locus of Control… or are you being Ravaged by Locust?
Your Locus of Control is your perceived source of control for events within your life. It’s the extent to which you believe you have control over events in your life, or power over things that affect you.
Someone with an external locus of control believes that external factors influence what happens in their lives. They consider events that happen in their life as the consequence of stuff that’s beyond their control. On the other hand, someone with an internal locus of control believes that they can directly influence things that happen in their lives.